When I first became a CPST, I had every intention to convince everyone I spoke to about car seat safety to do the best.
With each person that went against my advice, I’d lose sleep over it. I’d go over and over in my head about what I could’ve done differently that would’ve changed the outcome.
It wasn’t until years later that I realized that I can’t convince them all. You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot MAKE them drink.
It was so hard for me to get over.
I have never been the kind to overstep my boundaries or push my beliefs (religious or otherwise) on anyone. I don’t like controversy and I HATE confrontation. So, typically, I avoid it. For a while, I just stopped giving advice completely. The majority weren’t listening to me, so why bother?
It wasn’t until a fellow CPST told me about someone she knew that lost her son in a car accident. She knew she turned him forward-facing too early and she said nothing. She, like me, had been burned by too many people not taking her advice.
Everyday, she still wonders if things would’ve been different if she had spoken with her friend about car seat safety.
That was probably one of the most important lessons I’ve ever learned as a CPST.
Just because someone doesn’t take your advice, at least you’ve said SOMETHING. Because then if something happens, you won’t have to live with the guilt. It’s on THEM, not your conscience.
So, I still offer my advice and my knowledge, but I no longer blame myself for someone else’s stubbornness or ignorance.
If you want to believe “it won’t happen to me” or “I’m just being over-protective”, go ahead and keep living in fantasy land. Keep thinking that you’ll never crash and that your children are invincible; at least I have done my job. I realize that I can’t save them all, but I’ll keep trying.
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